I read a quote the other day that really stood out to me and gave me a new perspective for my relationships, both career wise and friends:
“If you hang out with chickens, you’re going to cluck and if you hang out with eagles, you’re going to fly.”-Dr. Steve Maraboli
Think about it…remember that old saying, “Birds of a feather fly together”? Same principle here: you are who you hang out with.
I see that saying ring true all the time. Whether it be books, coaches, courses or seeing people I know, I hear and see it over and over again that the people we surround ourselves with truly can define us and our chances of success. Yes, I know, some relationships cannot change (like family). If your family is unsupportive of you and your goals or tend to sit around ‘clucking’ all day, then you have to look to your friends to see how they affect you.
Do your friends sit around and complain or gossip all day? Do they tend to focus on the negatives of life, rather than positive solutions to their troubles? Do you feel worse about yourself after you spend time with them? While these may seem like small things, these attitudes can have a deep impact on us and can greatly affect how we live and what we choose to do with our time.
From my personal experience, over the years I have had to say good bye to old friends that were either drama-focused or who focused on demeaning others and bringing others down. I never felt uplifted or positive once I went home, and I realized that there negativity was seeping into my own life. I would join in their conversations about how much life sucks or even gossiping about other people (sometimes even our own mutual friends), and once I recognized how detrimental this was to my conscious and sanity, I quickly parted ways.
This past year has been a year of me looking at my current relationships with intention and realizing that I had allowed negative relationships back into my life. Some of my friends are absolutely fantastic and supportive of what I’m doing. However, there are a couple that I tend to avoid seeing because their drama-filled lives are just so overwhelming and any attempts at help are ignored or deflected quickly. I end up leaving my time with them feeling frustrated and mentally ranting about why they won’t listen or see the very obvious areas where they could change (hint: they don’t really want to change. They just like the attention). So I’ve been slowly drawing away from those relationships and instead investing in the ‘eagles’ in my life.
I’m tired of clucking with the chickens. I want to fly.
How did this quote speak to you? I would love to hear your thoughts in a comment below!